Reassure her

Some days all you really need to do is to be there.

I know I've mentioned this before, but it bears repeating.

She's gonna have days when she feels out of sorts with herself and the world.

She's gonna feel as if nothing is going right and that everything is going wrong.

Trust me she'll tell you.

Trueborn, if that is your real name, how will she tell me? I mean I know she's not gonna come out in say it, that would be too easy.

Ah, yes it is a bit of a puzzle. We men speak bluntly, women sometimes speak around the issue. So I'll give you a few ways that she needs your reassurance, your love, your hug.

• She'll ask you for private time, or ask vague questions about your schedule.


• She'll snuggle up to you on the couch and say not a word.


• She'll start cleaning up and not say anything.

She wants you to ask, she wants to know that you care, she wants you to reassure her but she can't come out and say it implicitly.

Why?

Because then it may be a platitude said only ease her fears and it won't be genuine. She will say it in these ways and in so many others, you just have to be open to the signs.

Guys most of the time she wants you to know everything and anything that goes on, so when she doesn't say a thing, it's time to take notice and ask why.

As for the cleaning bit, maybe it's just me that's noticed this, but I doubt it, she'll start cleaning in an effort to expend nervous energy, to set everything in order, to control what she can. that may mean that she doesn't have complete control in other areas of her life.

Reassure her of your love, support her, and hold her tight.

I guess your also going to tell me to clean up after myself too, right?

In a word, Yes.